Parents should always look for opportunities to offer their children choices. It’s easier to issue commands and make decisions for them, but if you do this all the time, your children won’t learn how to make up their minds.
The following are a few things you can do to help your children develop decision-making skills.
*Allow your children to choose what they want to wear. Choose two outfits you would like your child to wear and let him or her decide.
*Give them the choice to decide what they want to eat for lunch and encourage them to pack their own lunch in the mornings.
*Don’t solve all of your children’s problems. Parents do this out of love, but when you solve all of your children’s problems you are not allowing them to develop the skills they need to solve problems in the future.
Your instinct might be to tell your children what to do, but it is better to ask them questions that will help them find solutions on their own. If they can’t solve a problem then make a few suggestions, and let them choose one.
*The next time your children are fighting let them resolve their issues on their own. Unless they are in physical danger, let them be responsible for working things out.
Parents spend a lot of time giving commands and then wonder why their children don’t have good decision- making skills.
As your children get older, allow them to manage certain aspects of their life. Give your children the opportunity to make mistakes. If you know they have made the wrong decision about something, don’t rush in and try to fix it. Part of growing up is about making mistakes and learning how to repair them.
Give your child every opportunity you can to practice making decisions and you will be helping them gain a skill they will use for the rest of their lives.