When I was a little girl my mother would always put her arm around me and I would place my cheek on her arm. I can still remember how cool her skin felt and how good she always smelled.
When my children were toddlers and they were restless I always put them to sleep by placing the palm of my hand on their cheek. Moments like this create a very special bond with your children.
A few years ago I received an e-mail from one of my readers. Her story confirms how love can bind us even when we are not aware of it.
When she was 2 months old her mother died. Her aunt who was only 20-years-old at the time adopted her, and together they grew up, and learned about life.
She is now a divorced mother of two wonderful children, ages 14 and 19. Today she is not only a parent, but she often has to play the role of a child in order to communicate with her mother. Her mother has Alzheimer.
Although it is difficult to watch her mother live with this disease she is thankful that they can still be together. She can no longer have long talks or communicate with her mother the way she use to, but by spending time with her, she can still show her how much she loves her.
Their time together is spent playing games. Her mother laughs and enjoys herself. Like a child her mother is oblivious to her surroundings, and to what is happening to her. She is grateful that her mother lives in a world where she can be happy and carefree.
Her mother doesn’t understand the reality of her situation, but she knows that in her heart, her mother can sense the love she has for her.
Sometimes as parents we think that our love goes unnoticed and we feel unappreciated, but love doesn’t disappear it isn’t something that is wasted once it is given.
Children don’t have an obligation to their parents. We don’t bring children in to the world so that when we get old they can take care of us. However, life has a way of showing us what we need to do.
When you’re raised with love, and you have a good relationship with your parents they don’t have to ask you for help. It is something you do with all your heart out of love and respect for the people who have done so much for you.
Sometimes even when you haven’t received the love and nurturing you wish you had, you take care of your parents as a way to mend a relationship that could have been much more than what you shared.
Alzheimer cannot take away the person you love. Because when we love someone as deeply as this woman loves her mother, that person becomes a part of you and will always be in your heart.
A mother’s love for her daughter and a daughter’s love for her mother is stronger than any disease.