When I was younger I would get frustrated when I couldn’t gracefully balance a hundred things at one time.
There was a television commercial many years ago about a sexy woman who would dance and twirl around her house singing a song about bringing home the bacon, frying it in a pan, and never letting “him” forget he’s a man.
I imagine that many women were left frustrated, instead of inspired, after watching this commercial. For years women of my generation have been told that we can do it all. We can have a career, be a mother, and have time for volunteer work.
The truth is that it’s impossible to balance life the way you would other things, it’s more about taking care of what you need to do first, and then moving on to the next thing.
The word balance makes you think you can divide things up perfectly, but that is never the case. If your kids are sick you need to stay home, and you will fall behind at work. There is no balance there it is what it is.
For women it’s about learning to prioritize, not feel guilty, and accepting that you can do anything you want, but not at the same time. You are mortal you are not superwoman.
It’s about learning to say “no” and putting your family first. And understanding that your children will grow and need you less, and you will have plenty of time for all the other things you don’t have time for now.
Set your priorities and enjoy living in the moment, instead of worrying you should be doing something else.
During your lifetime you will play many different roles. Some will be easier than others; some will give you more satisfaction than others.
But the most important role you will have and the one that you need to ensure you have time for is being a wife and mother.
Family is what life is all about.
“If you bungle raising your children,” Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis said, “I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much.”