Finding the right person to love and marry is one of the greatest challenges we face in life. Ask any single male or female and they will tell you how difficult it is to find that special someone.
During my parents’ generation, couples married because that was the way two people in love could live together. Marriage was forever and divorce was an option only in the most drastic circumstances. Today, you can get anything marriage offers quicker and cheaper and without commitments.
We have become a generation of gratification seekers. We’ve misinterpreted the experts’ advice about finding happiness, and we think that means doing whatever we want as long as it makes us feel good.
Living with this kind of attitude has a price. Children are growing up watching their parents argue, or worse they live in homes filled with piercing silence.
To make a relationship work, it takes commitment and selfless acts of love and towards your spouse without keeping score as to who has given more.
Marriage is about respect, understanding, and appreciating your spouse.
In order to succeed in marriage you cannot take each other for granted, and you have to value your spouse.
In his book From Beginning To End, Robert Fulghum describes a wedding ceremony he attended. The minister ended the ceremony blessing the couple’s union with these words:
May the sun of many days and years shine upon you.
May the love you have for one another grow and hold you close.
May the good true light within you guide your way on together.
May your dreams come true, and when they don’t, may new dreams arise.
And long, long years from now, may you look at one another and be able to say, “Because of you, I have lived the life I always wanted to live–because of you I have become the person I longed to be.”
May these vows remind you of why you chose to marry your spouse, and the importance of keeping that love alive.